Will Smith’s biographer and self-help guru Mark Manson finally opens up about the slapping incident

Mark Manson, the self-help guru who co-wrote Will Smith’s autobiography ‘Will’, has shared his thoughts on the actor’s high-profile slap in the face of Chris Rock at the Oscars ceremony last Sunday. .

In a word

Smith shocked viewers and members of the public alike when he rushed to the stage at the Oscars to slap Rock after the comedian made a joke about his wife Jada Pinkett Smith’s shaved head. Along with slapping Rock, Smith also yelled at him, “Keep my wife’s name out of your fucking mouth!”

Now Mark Manson, who knows the actor well from when they worked together to co-write Smith’s memoir, has offered his thoughts on the controversial attack.

In a post on his MarkManson.net website, Manson said readers of the Will book would not be surprised by Smith’s actions on Sunday.

“The book contained an in-depth discussion of his deep insecurities about his inability to protect the women in his life. We talked about the culture of violence in his neighborhood and his growing family.

“We wrote candidly about his relationship with fighting and how, particularly when he was young, he had a propensity for initiating physical altercations unnecessarily. We discussed his relentless perfectionism and how he sometimes achieved that perfectionism through intimidation and fear of those around him.

“Maybe you all missed the memo, but you were put on alert months ago.”

Manson, who hasn’t seen or heard from Smith since their book tour ended last November, went on to say “Literally on the first page of the book it says, ‘What you understood as ‘ Will Smith’, the alien-annihilating MC, the larger-than-life movie star, is largely a construct – a carefully crafted and honed character – designed to protect me. To hide me from the world. To hide the coward” .

LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA – MAY 20: Author Mark Manson speaks during a signing ceremony for his new book ‘Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope’ at Barnes & Noble at The Grove on May 20, 2019 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Michael Tullberg/Getty Images)

Culture of celebrity worship

Manson said it was important to understand Sunday’s slapping incident and the ensuing controversy as part of the larger culture of celebrity worship.

“Whenever something like this happens you see people go after the offensive celebrity with cheerful moral righteousness, Manson said, “OMG Will, I used to have so much respect for you “Really? The guy who pretends to blow up aliens for a living?”

Manson said people should be careful about codependency, something that happens in relationships when one person is idolized to the point where the other person can’t see their flaws.

“Co-dependency almost always leads to dysfunctional relationships and heartache,” Manson explained.

“Still, people do that with the celebrities they love all the time. For some reason, we decide that just because a guy can shoot basketball well, we expect him to be a great basketball man. business, a good father, a good husband, a great community leader, to have informed and nuanced political views (which also align with ours), to have impeccable ethics and little to no emotional dysfunction.”

“Oh, and he has to do all of this without ever complaining.”

Back to Will Smith

Manson said that for his part he can accept and tolerate Smith’s shortcomings “as disappointed as I am with what he has done.”

He added that he had seen Smith’s generosity firsthand. “I studied the decades of wonderful things he did for the people in his life, his community and his industry,” Manson said.

“I’ve been close enough to him to know his heart is in the right place and he’s embarrassed by what he’s done.

“In our Twitter-dominated world, I believe we are over-optimized for moral judgment and under-optimized for forgiveness.

“Moral judgment comes easily and is rewarded with retweets and clicks. Forgiveness is hard and doesn’t go viral.”

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